Is It Wise to Place Happiness Outside Self?
Dependence From Happiness Outside Self
In her thought-provoking post Why I No Longer Depend on Anyone Else for Happiness, Fun, or Excitement, Matana Williams shares her experiences with disappointment by placing happiness outside her control -- e.g., happiness outside self. She shared these insights:
1. Expecting someone else to make me happy is objectifying them.
2. I alone am responsible for my happiness and excitement in life.
3. You can reclaim your power.
I've personally found that placing your happiness outside something you control can lead to dependence, resentment, and generally feeling reactionary. Have a purpose -- through a clear sense of your "Big Why," core values, and set of principles -- is a great way to cut through the clutter of everyday life. These tools also provide guideposts to a more happy life.
In addition to the Friday Happiness Post and Thriving Attorney, Darin M. Klemchuk is founder of Klemchuk LLP, a litigation, intellectual property, and transactional law firm located in Dallas, Texas. He also co-founded Project K, a charity devoted to changing the world one random act of kindness at a time. Click to read more about Darin Klemchuk's practice as an intellectual property lawyer.